After you have been depressed awhile, the cycle of negative thoughts can make it seem like an impossible task to find joy anywhere.
To help pull oneself out of these negative moods, different things can be effective – some go for walks (especially in nature), some listen to music, some look for creative outlets (like painting or playing a musical instrument). I was feeling a bit gloomy the other day and began to look for positive things. They really are everywhere. I saw the rainbow in the photo below from my window at home. The view helped my mood and I hope it has helped yours, too.
Find things you enjoy and even when you feel down – especially when you feel down – treat yourself. Positives are everywhere!
I began meditating before my son was born, because I wanted to be relaxed for him. I was 36 and had normal stresses, but wanted to be as positive an influence as possible on our baby. I wasn’t interested in religion (I had put religion behind me more than a decade before). I have found many benefits in mediation – clearer thinking, settled mind, a deeper perspective on life generally and troubles specifically, as well as many physiological benefits.
While I spent a number of years with om mani padme hum, lately I have found “OM” alone preferred. While meditating can be on one’s breath, visualisations and other stimuli, I find the pattern of chanting helps to settle my racing mind quickly and has effects that can last days (depending on how much I listen to the chanting).
If you are anxious and need out of your head, I would recommend the following:
It can be difficult to deal with the gloom at times. The worst thing to do for your moods can seem the most natural – to stay in bed and brood over the things working through your mind. One of the things that can most help with moods can seem the most difficult to do. To get out of bed and exercise can produce chemicals to help with your moods and being able to focus on the things around you, as you walk, can be incredibly therapeutic.
I went on a walk today with my son. The wind on my face, the warmth of the sun, the sound of his voice, the feeling of the gravel shifting beneath my feet. All of these things helped to ground me in a place outside of my head. We walked a path behind our home and stopped to take this photo. If you need someone to help you get outside and exercise, try sharing this page with a friend and ask them to help you get outside (and outside of your own head).
Walk, talk, take time to be with others and nature. It might seem difficult, at first, but the rewards can be significant – for you and those who love you.